Basics
I'm a man in my mid-40's (b. 1980) looking for some women friends. I'm fine if you want a friendship to be strictly limited to a friendship, and likewise I'm fine if you're hoping it can turn into more -- I hope one of my friendships I make will turn into more. If you absolutely don't want a friendship that could turn into more, let me know. If you are hoping for more but are fine with being friends first, feel free to let me know that too. I'm divorced, and ultimately I'd like to be married again, but want to take things slow.
What I look for in a friend
The most important thing I look for in a friend is someone I feel safe expressing my thoughts & feelings to. I love talking about deep subjects. If we’re going to be good friends, you’re going to need to become someone who learns about me and my quirks. We can be friends without that, but it won’t last… I don’t have the time and energy to spend on a friendship that can’t go deep.
It’s also important to have some common interests.
If you’re not familiar with INFJ’s, you might expect that we go do a lot of things together. That’s not me. It’s nice to occasionally do things, but once we’ve built a decent friendship, I’ll usually just want to have a good conversation with you.
What I have to offer as a friend
I'm a good listener. I think sometimes people think we’re better friends than we are simply because I listen to them. If requested, I usually have some good advice. I can be a really good help in a time of need.