Dating Apps

I use the dating apps reluctantly, because I don’t see a better option. Generally speaking, I feel like the dating apps are designed for people who are not my type. I’m guessing the women who are my type only get on dating apps once in a while for a brief period, see that it doesn’t work for them, and give up… then repeat again at some future point. Because I’m introverted and shy, I know I’m less likely to meet someone at a singles event or something. So, while it’s not a great option for me, I feel like it’s my best option.

Boo

I’m just starting out with Boo, and using it to find friends rather than date. I appreciate that require more modesty than Mutual. I'm disappointed at the ability to filter matches (or at least I haven't found good filter controls), and I'm disappointed that there are so few latter-day saint women on that platform.

eHarmony

I like the idea of being connected based on similarities. I don’t understand how your preference on straight or squiggly lines can help determine a good match though. I used eHarmony for a year, but only had a few matches during that time, and I only recall going out with one. With many of my matches with high match scores, I could tell by their profiles that we weren’t good matches. Re-testing on eHarmony isn’t easy. In the end, I found the cost to be too much for the value I was getting out of it.

Elite Singles

Waste of money and effort. I joined this one because I took some test to see what niche dating app I should use and this was what it suggested. I’m not “elite”, and neither are the others on there. Even though my settings had me in Utah Valley (I checked this multiple times), nearly all of my “matches” were in Colorado or Wyoming. They were poor matches at that. I think I started messaging one girl, and that never went anywhere.

LDS Planet

Mixed feelings about this one. It’s the first one I used after getting divorced. It’s a pretty outdated website, and being in the software world, I can tell whoever runs it neglects it. When I initially joined, I went for quite some time with no matches… then suddenly one day I had a dozen matches, most of whom were already suggesting things inconsistent with my beliefs. I figured they were bots and the site had been hacked, so I left. I came back to it a couple of years later after being frustrated with Mutual, and found a few good matches who were real, and had some good dates. I still think the owners are just milking it for whatever they can get out of it before it gets taken over by hackers.

LDS Singles

I briefly got on this one, but didn’t give it a real try. It didn't seem like there were many people on it.

Match

Match is expensive - A little too expensive after promotions are done. However, I like match because it allows the person to share much more about themselves. That’s super helpful to me, since pictures are not enough for me to know if I’m interested. Still, a lot of match members don’t take advantage of being able to share more about themselves, and I still maxed out what I could share about myself. It’s because I want more information about a person when deciding whether to “like” them that I created this site.

I had many great conversations with women on Match, but comparatively few turned into dates.

Mutual

I use mutual because it’s the de-facto dating app for latter day saint singles. I don’t like it though – I don’t like how it caters to judging people by their pictures, and doesn’t let people include much information about themselves. I also don’t like that it’s a mobile-only app, and doesn’t have a search feature. I feel like it just pops anyone up (within your filters) and then you have to decide whether you like that person or not based on a few pictures and a couple of short paragraphs. You don’t know whether to give the person a chance or not, because you can’t compare people side-by-side. I wonder if a girl from my past would show up if I keep swiping. This isn’t my style.